Norma J. Wagar, born Norma J. Frederick on August 21, 1936, in Owosso, Michigan, peacefully passed away on September 26, 2020, surrounded by the love of her family. She was a woman who embodied the phrase “salt of the earth,” living a life marked by devotion to family, tireless advocacy, and quiet strength. Preceding her in death were her parents, William and Cleo Frederick, her sisters, Jo Gunther and Billie Hooper, and her beloved husband, Tom.
Growing up in Owosso, Norma’s life took a beautiful turn when she met Tom in high school. Their marriage in 1954 marked the beginning of a lifelong partnership and the foundation of their family. Soon after, their four children – Julie, Bill, Kathy, and Michael – filled their lives with joy and activity. The Wagars settled in Kent in the early 1960s, creating a home filled with warmth and memorable experiences. Family camping trips were a highlight, with the station wagon packed and excitement high for each new campsite. As the family grew, vacations evolved to include cherished times at Edisto Island and Lake Erie, with granddaughters joining the fun, creating lasting bonds and memories.
Even as a busy mother, Norma found fulfillment working at Kroger. This experience highlighted her enjoyment of engaging with the community and contributing beyond her home. Norma and Tom were forward-thinking parents, particularly as early advocates for individuals with developmental disabilities. Having a child with special needs fueled their passion to build support systems and services in Portage County. They stood shoulder-to-shoulder with other young parents, fighting tirelessly and laying the groundwork for resources that would benefit countless families. Their advocacy was a testament to their unwavering commitment to inclusivity and support for those often marginalized.
As her children matured and began to forge their own paths, Norma embarked on a new chapter, pursuing higher education. She excelled academically at Kent State University, graduating Magna Cum Laude in 1981 with a degree in Criminal Justice. This choice of study, while perhaps surprising to some, resonated deeply with her children who recognized her innate sense of fairness and keen observation of human nature.
Norma’s career as a paralegal at Buckingham Doolittle and Burroughs followed her college success. She dedicated many years to the firm, finding satisfaction in assisting with trial preparation and ensuring the smooth operation of legal processes. Her colleagues appreciated her meticulous nature and her ability to keep even the most seasoned lawyers organized, often joking about her role in “keeping the lawyers from messing up my files!”
Her advocacy for the developmentally disabled remained a central tenet of Norma’s life. She was an enthusiastic and unwavering supporter of Kathy’s involvement in Special Olympics. Her presence at training sessions and competitions was unmistakable. Norma’s cheers were legendary, echoing through stadiums, encouraging not just Kathy but every athlete. She believed in cheering until the very last participant crossed the finish line, embodying the Special Olympics oath: “Let me win, but if I cannot win, let me be brave in the attempt.” Witnessing Kathy compete at local, state, national, and international levels filled Norma with immense pride. Later in life, she extended her commitment by serving as a volunteer Trustee on the Residential Resources for the Developmentally Challenged Board, an organization she and Tom had been instrumental in establishing to provide independent living options for adults with developmental disabilities.
Norma’s principles of advocacy and standing up for her convictions permeated all aspects of her life. She championed numerous social justice causes, demonstrating her unwavering belief in equality and fairness. At the age of 80, Norma participated in her first protest march, traveling by bus to Washington D.C. with her daughter Julie and friends for the Women’s March. It was a powerful moment to see her, with her rollator, joining fellow protesters who respectfully made way for her, a testament to her enduring spirit and commitment to social change.
However, above all else, family was Norma’s true north. Her greatest joy was a home filled with the lively sounds of family and friends, regardless of the occasion. A remarkable cook, she ensured no one ever left her table hungry. Her pies were legendary, and her Thanksgiving stuffing was a culinary masterpiece, a family tradition deeply missed as the recipe, held only in her memory and senses, could not be replicated.
Norma is survived by her children: Julie Wagar, Bill (Monica) Wagar, Kathy Wagar, and Michael (Jennifer) Wagar. Her legacy continues through her five granddaughters: Jacquelyn Bleak, Jeannette Logan, Jessica Vaughn, Samantha Wagar, and Delaney Wagar, as well as her great-grandchildren, nieces, and nephews.
Tom always affectionately described Norma as a “feisty little redhead,” a description her family wholeheartedly agrees with and will dearly miss. While her absence is deeply felt, there is comfort in knowing she is reunited with Tom, perhaps adding a bit more joyful noise to his heavenly fishing trips.
The family extends heartfelt gratitude to Norma’s devoted aides, Renee Jones and Kathy Conzen, for their compassionate care and support over the years, and to the staff of Summa Health Hospice for their exceptional care and support during her final days.
In remembrance of Norma, the family suggests donations to organizations close to her heart: Portage County Special Olympics, Residential Resources, and Summa Health Hospice.
Friends and family are invited to calling hours at Bissler and Sons Funeral Home on Friday, October 2nd, from 10 AM to 12 PM, followed by a private family graveside service. In accordance with public health guidelines, masks and social distancing are requested.
Services are entrusted to Bissler & Sons Funeral Home and Crematory.
