Ready to master the art of cunnilingus? This comprehensive guide from Lovers will teach you everything you need to know to deliver pleasure and explore the world of oral sex like never before. From understanding vulva anatomy to advanced techniques and toy recommendations, we’ve got you covered.
Understanding Vulva Anatomy for Better Cunnilingus
Knowing the anatomy of your partner’s vulva will significantly enhance the quality of oral sex you provide. Familiarity allows you to refine your technique and cater to their specific pleasure points. While the clitoris is the star, the labia minora, majora, and vagina play essential supporting roles.
The Clitoris: This sexual organ is made of erectile tissue that engorges and hardens when stimulated. Consider it a homologue of the penis, sharing structural and developmental similarities. The clitoris, primarily located beneath the skin’s surface, can be stimulated by massaging the labia.
The glans clitoris, the exposed tissue at the top of the vulva, sits just above the urethral opening. While containing the lowest percentage of erectile tissue in the clitoris, it boasts the highest concentration of nerve endings – approximately 8,000! This makes it the most sensitive area.
The clitoris is the only structure in the human body designed solely to provide pleasure.
The Clitoral Hood: This prepuce of skin protects the glans clitoris, mirroring the function of foreskin on an uncircumcised penis. Like all parts of the vulva, it comes in various shapes and sizes. During arousal, it retracts, exposing the nerve endings as the glans hardens. Holding the hood back may enhance stimulation for some.
The Labia Majora & Minora: The labia majora are the outer folds of skin and fatty tissue extending from the mons pubis. The labia minora, the inner folds, are made of erectile tissue surrounding the vaginal opening. The minora is packed with nerve endings that help distinguish touch, trap and excrete moisture, and maintain a balanced, slightly acidic pH (5.3-5.6) to protect against infections.
The Urethral Opening: The urethra is the tube that drains urine from the bladder, and its opening can be found and stimulated externally.
The Vagina: This triangular-shaped, fibromuscular tube connects the vulva to the cervix, serving as the entry point for a penis or sex toy to stimulate erogenous zones like the G-spot. Muscles in the pelvic floor support this area, contracting during orgasm.
The Perineum: This thin layer of skin between the vestibule (bottom of the vaginal opening) and the anus is highly innervated, making it extremely sensitive to touch.
The Anus: This band of muscular rings controls fecal continence. Its ability to distinguish between soft and hard stools makes it pleasurable for many to stimulate, activating those nerve endings.
Essential Oral Sex Etiquette
While there’s no one-size-fits-all technique, these guidelines will elevate any oral sex experience.
Clean Your Tool Kit: The vulva and vagina are designed to protect themselves, but they’re not impervious. Wash your hands and mouth beforehand to protect your partner from UTIs, yeast infections, or bacterial imbalances. Receivers should also wash before presenting their bits.
Finger Bang with Care: The vulva is prone to microabrasions and tears, which are painful and create pathways for bacteria and disease. Trim your nails and avoid any rough edges before inserting fingers into the vagina. Consider using a sex toy or finger sleeve to add sensation and prevent fissures.
Taste the Rainbow (Respectfully): Just like a penis, the vulva has its own unique flavor profile, ranging from salty and acidic to sweet and tangy. It’s natural. Unless you suspect a health issue, keep any negative opinions to yourself. Flavor can change with diet or hormones, such as during pregnancy. Oral glides and supplements can add sweetness.
Warp Speed? Not So Fast: Unless specifically requested, avoid a fast, aggressive approach. Build up sensation gradually to allow the body to process it effectively. Learn about the body’s sexual response cycle for deeper understanding.
We beg of you: stop sticking your fingers inside of us like you’re pushing all the buttons on an elevator panel.
Oral Sex During Menses: Bleeding happens. Never shame your partner for menstruation. Oral sex during their period is safe (and tastes like pennies). They can use a tampon, dental dam, or menstrual cup to keep things clean, or you can use absorbent blankets to protect your sheets. If you’re uncomfortable, communicate this respectfully and offer to resume oral sex after their cycle. Consent is crucial.
Tips and Tricks for Mind-Blowing Cunnilingus
Since every body responds differently, mastering oral sex can take time. These techniques will enhance communication and improve your cunnilingus skills:
Ask Questions: Asking questions is hot and essential. While gently stroking the clitoris, ask, “What feels better, this or this?” Offering options helps you quickly identify preferences for soft or firm touches, fast or slow movements, and circular or sweeping motions. This creates anticipation as your partner imagines how they’ll be touched next.
Give Them a Leg Massage: The clitoral legs are located beneath the skin, making them difficult to stimulate. Massage the inner and outer labia to increase blood flow and enhance sensitivity, using your thumbs to apply mild pressure or your index and middle fingers in a peace-sign motion to massage up and down the legs.
Pull Their Hair (Gently): Pubic hair is connected to individual nerve endings. Gently tugging on these hairs during oral sex can add stimulation for some.
Suck It: Oral sex toys are often designed to recreate this technique. Create a seal around the clitoris and gently suck on the glans. Some prefer pulling air in, creating a miniature vortex. Enhance the sensation by licking and flicking as you suck, like a tiny hickey.
Multitask: Spread stimulation across multiple erogenous zones for intense goosebumps.
- Lick or suck the clitoris while adding pressure to the G-spot or anus.
- Place your thumb directly on top of the vaginal or anal opening while licking the clitoris.
- Stimulate the clitoris while tracing their body, tugging on nipples, or (with consent) sucking on your fingers.
- Use your tongue around the vaginal opening while stimulating the anus or clitoris with your hands.
- Stimulate the clitoris or vagina while kissing or nibbling along the inner thighs.
Make Eye Contact: Eye contact is vital for building trust, maintaining focus, and improving sexual chemistry.
Introduce a Sex Toy: If multitasking is challenging, a sex toy can help. Dedicate your focus to one area while the toy handles the other. A single-motor vibrator can provide internal stimulation while you lick, flick, and suck.
Best Positions for Cunnilingus
Classic Missionary: Straightforward and allows the receiver to relax and focus on the sensations.
Doggie Style: Exposes the entire vulva, allows the receiver to lean into pleasure, and is visually compelling for the giver. A positioning wedge adds support.
The Happy Baby: Receiver lies on their back, bringing their thighs close to their chest with ankles perpendicular to calves, supporting their pose with their hands, leaving the vulva exposed.
Queening: The receiver straddles their partner, directing stimulation. Queening stools support the receiver’s weight while leaving the vulva exposed.
The Kivin Method: Popularized on Reddit, this method claims to trigger climax in under three minutes. Use your index finger and thumb to raise and steady the clitoris. Instead of licking up and down, angle yourself to lick from side to side, sweeping directly over the clitoral hood.
Top Oral Sex Toys for Enhanced Pleasure
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The Womanizer ($209)
Experience divinity with the Womanizer Premium 2.0. It features 12 levels of tremors, from soft to strong, providing powerful, quaking orgasms. The contactless suction from the silicone nub is powered by Pleasure Air Technology. Now you can experience the sensation of cunnilingus during solo play.
The LELO Sona 2 ($99)
Discover new sensations with the LELO Sona 2, a sonic air vibrator that exposes 75% of the clitoral nerve endings! The Sona 2 surrounds and hugs your clitoris so you don’t miss a single beat. Cycle through 12 settings to find which one gives you a back-arching release.
Her Ultimate Pleasure ($139)
Her Ultimate Pleasure simultaneously licks, sucks, and vibrates so you can reach a scream-worthy orgasm. This versatile pleasure wand features four stimulating motors for a plethora of options for your release.
The Lickity Slit ($69)
Cycle through seven powerful, flickering speeds and functions with this life-like oral stimulator. Rest the oval-shaped cup over your vulva to align the silicone tongue with your most sensitive regions.
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Further Readings
- How to Reduce the Risk of STDs During Cunnilingus: Health.com
- Cunnilingus Guide by Sex with Emily: Masterclass
- Researchers Explore the Roots of Cunnilingus: PsyPost
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