What if true happiness lies not in changing the world around us, but in understanding and appreciating the world within? This is the central idea explored with Zen Buddhist teacher Haemin Sunim, author of the bestselling book, ‘When Things Don’t Go Your Way: Zen Wisdom for Difficult Times.’
Haemin Sunim, a South Korean native educated at Berkeley, Harvard, and Princeton, brings a unique perspective to finding joy. Trained as a monk in Korea, he now shares his wisdom globally and founded the Dharma Illumination Zen Center in Seoul, offering meditation retreats and counselling.
Our exploration begins with the conflict between our personal desires and the expectations of society, what Haemin refers to as the “me of me” versus the “me of others.” He believes this tension is a primary source of stress and unhappiness.
Haemin Sunim portrait smiling warmly, embodying peaceful wisdom
We delve into the importance of slowing down and embracing the present moment. In our constant pursuit of goals, we often overlook the beauty and richness of our current experiences. Haemin offers practical mindfulness tips to reconnect with ourselves and the world. These techniques help ground us and cultivate a sense of gratitude for the simple things.
A central theme revolves around the interconnectedness of everything. Adopting this worldview, Haemin explains, can profoundly impact our happiness and sense of purpose. Recognizing that we are all part of something larger than ourselves fosters compassion and reduces feelings of isolation.
The power of listening, both to ourselves and others, is another key element in finding joy. Taking the time to truly hear what others are saying, without judgment, creates deeper connections and fosters understanding. Similarly, listening to our inner voice can guide us towards our true path.
Solitude also plays a vital role. Creating space for quiet reflection allows us to process our thoughts and emotions, leading to greater self-awareness and inner peace. It’s in these moments of solitude that we can truly connect with ourselves.
Crucially, we always have a choice in how we interpret and respond to life’s challenges. This perspective empowers us to take control of our emotional well-being and find joy even in difficult times. When things don’t go our way, there is always an opportunity for growth and unexpected joy. Reframing our challenges as opportunities for learning allows us to navigate life’s inevitable setbacks with greater resilience and optimism.
In essence, a monk’s guide to finding joy emphasizes inner peace, mindful awareness, interconnectedness, and the power of choice. By embracing these principles, we can cultivate a more fulfilling and contented life, regardless of external circumstances. The journey to joy begins within.
