Your spirit guides are non-physical entities dedicated to assisting you throughout your life. Like any relationship, nurturing it with attention, intention, and consistent effort will lead to a stronger connection and more profound guidance. Building a bond with your spirit guide can help you navigate life with more ease, overcome overthinking, and experience moments of profound support.
You are inherently surrounded by a constellation of spirit guides, including ancestors, guardian angels, and specialized helpers for everyday tasks. Forget the notion that connecting with your guides requires intellectual prowess. Instead, open your heart and trust your intuition. Cultivating this relationship is an act of self-love and allows you to surrender to a higher power.
In our world, we often get stuck in the intellect and the physical realm. We forget that we can actively raise our vibration and seek assistance from our spirit guides. This is true in so many ways. Many empathic and intuitive people are naturally good at helping others, but they may struggle to receive help themselves.
Therefore, the first step in connecting with your spirit guides is remembering that you are, at your core, spirit.
You are not defined by your job, accomplishments, or body; you are a spiritual being. When you shift your focus away from the material world and elevate your vibration, it becomes easier to connect with the spirit realm. Remember that your physical body is simply your “space suit,” as my grandmother would say. Move beyond the paradigm of right and wrong and instead ask yourself: does this resonate as true?
Ask for Help
One of the most effective tools for developing and improving communication with your spirit guides is to ask for their help frequently.
Be clear about your intentions and what you need assistance with, whether it’s a job, a relationship, or a personal struggle. Just ask.
A simple prayer that I use every morning to connect with my guides is: “Help me move towards my highest good and grant me the flexibility to release my attachment to what I think is best. I surrender to divine will.”
The crucial thing is to be open to receiving support.
Create an Altar
Another thing that I love to do that’s in my home and throughout my home is creating an altar. Creating an altar is a physical space in your home whether that be a bookshelf whether that be a tiny corner but this can be your portal for connection and this can also be a physical reminder for you that not only that you have help but it can be a place where we can actually start to turn things over.
If you want to create an altar the first thing I’d say is to create and collect sacred objects whether that’s statues, photos, feathers, rocks, or anything that speaks to you, and anything that brings you closer to the things that you love.
The more that we’re in that vibration of love the higher our vibration goes and the easier it is to connect with our spirit guides.
So creating an altar is a very beautiful way that we can ask an anchor to support.
Ask For Help With Everything
I ask my spirit guides for help with everything and anything. For example, I just traveled home from Europe yesterday out of Heathrow airport and what I learned from the news was that it was going to be awful. The lines are super long and the bags have been lost so before I even step foot at the airport I asked my spirit guides and said “Spirit guides help me have such an easy smooth travel day.” with that, I turned it over.
I decided that I wasn’t going to worry because I knew that my guides had me, and not only did I have a really smooth travel day, I was upgraded to first class. Thank you guides and all my bags arrived.
So where we can ask for help for specific things more important than having to get it right is to be available for support.
Developing a relationship with our spirit guides, you can kind of think of it as developing a relationship with anyone. The more that you speak to them, that can be in the shower, that can be while you’re driving your car, that can be anywhere.
The more that you communicate, the more that you’re open, the more that you’re available, and the more that you will be guidable.
We can get so stuck in our heads that if we’re not guidable then our spirit guides can’t help us with anything but we have free will and a choice.
So make it a choice to pay attention to the subtle ways that your guides are helping you.
Express Gratitude
A beautiful way that we can also help is by thanking your spirit guides.
Gratitude is one of the highest vibrations on the planet earth, and the more that we can anchor into gratitude, the more that we can start to see how things are working in our lives instead of where we get stuck.
Our spirit guides rejoice when we say gratitude and when we have gratitude.
Another beautiful way spirit loves beauty and first that recognizes that you yourself are beautiful just as you are and surround yourself with beauty.
Music, art, and having a fresh bouquet of flowers, these are all treats that you can do for yourself but not only that but your own spirit guides.
Share Your Experiences
Talk and notice the ways that you’ve had magical experiences.
For me, getting upgraded to first class and having a smooth travel day that was my guide, and I acknowledge the ways that they have helped me and supported me. The ways that they are showing up for me and train our attention to start to pay attention to the ways that our guides are speaking to us.
Go throughout your life. What are the ways and the signs?
For example, I’ve said this a lot of different times already. In my family pennies is a sign of spirit. My grandfather used to flip pennies to my mom and to me because they said in god we trust, so anytime I see a penny on the street or anywhere, I know that that’s a sign from my guide.
So I acknowledge, and I’m grateful for those subtle ways that they are showing up.
Don’t Overthink It
And most importantly in developing a relationship with your spirit guides, don’t overthink it.
No, because you are innately spirit, and you innately have help. That you innately have divine support. We don’t have to try and get it right. The most important thing is your intention. Where is my intention and what is my attention, where can I have more grace, where can I allow more flow, and where can I see what’s working in my life?
Name Your Guides
Last but not least is to name your spirit guides.
My spirit’s name is Peony but I have a whole bunch of different guides that come in. One of my beautiful joy guides’ names is Joy and so anytime that I have a little humor or something that comes in that surprises me I’m like, “Thank you joy. That is you.”
You don’t have to necessarily worry about getting the name right. Think of it as an energetic calling card, so call on your spirit guides, and recognize that you are spirit, pay attention to the things that anchor into your heart space, build an altar and attend to it daily, bring it flowers, use it as a space of meditation and prayer.
Another simple way that you can develop a relationship with your spirit guides if you’re really struggling with something that you’re really worried about is to pray.
That’s a way we can turn things over to something bigger than ourselves, higher than ourselves, and if you’re really really struggling, another tool that I love is taking a little piece of paper writing where you need help, and folding it up. Put it on your altar as a physical way to turn something over, saying “Okay, I’m taking my hands off the rings, and I’m giving it to you, I’m giving it to god, and I expect a solution.
Developing a relationship with your spirit guide is a continuous journey of opening your heart, trusting your intuition, and recognizing the subtle signs of support that surround you. By incorporating these practices into your daily life, you can cultivate a profound connection with your guides and experience the transformative power of their wisdom and love.
Check out this free spirit guided meditation that you can use to get a name for your spirit guides and your own spirit.
