The internet is flooded with advice on how to get laid, but much of it is cringeworthy and ineffective. As someone who once struggled with women and now enjoys consistent success, I offer a unique perspective and actionable steps to help you improve your game.
1. My Journey from Socially Awkward to Confident
To understand why my advice is valuable, let me share my backstory. I was incredibly shy and lacked social skills, making me uncomfortable around people. This insecurity led to others mistreating me, creating a constant social hell. High school, often touted as the best time of life, was a period of depression and disappointment for me. I couldn’t get laid, had few friends, possessed zero game, and was studying a subject I hated in a small town with limited social life.
Adding to my woes, I gained weight and started losing my hair in my early twenties. Looking back, I felt like I wasted five years, ending up worse than when I started. I was still a virgin, even more insecure about it, balding, overweight, lacking social skills, studying something I despised, broke, and devoid of hope.
Realizing I needed a change, I embarked on a journey of self-improvement, trying various methods, some considered extreme:
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Embraced cringe-worthy pick-up artist tactics.
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Spent nights approaching women in bars.
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Approached women in parks and during the day.
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Got into sales to improve my communication skills.
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Lost 20kg of fat in 5 months.
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Started working out and experimented with performance-enhancing drugs.
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Treated my male pattern baldness with experimental drugs.
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Analyzed charismatic individuals to mimic their body language.
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Went on dates with less attractive women to gain experience.
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Learned how to take appealing photos for dating apps.
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Mastered texting strategies to get women to come to my apartment.
Today, I’m perceived as a confident, attractive man who gets laid consistently with attractive women. I genuinely enjoy spending time with women and flirting.
While I don’t consider myself an expert, I get laid as much as I want with hot women. My social skills are above average, and I excel at maintaining frame and communicating confidently. If you’re an underachiever with women, consider my practical advice.
2. Hit on Girls Constantly and Consistently
It’s not a joke; it’s the most crucial step. Approach any girls you find attractive or even those you don’t. The point is to engage and try to seduce them.
Why is this so important? It’s the only way to truly learn how women behave and how to interact with them effectively. Initially, you’ll face rejection due to sloppy approaches and misreading social cues. But with “mass approaching,” you’ll learn how women react to different tactics, subconsciously improving your approach. Rejection will sting less, boosting your confidence.
Eventually, you’ll experience success, leading to more success, and you’ll realize your potential with women. Consider getting into sales. Success in sales teaches you how to maintain frame, become socially savvy, persuade others, and advance interactions. Plus, it can lead to financial success, which is attractive to women.
It’s challenging at first, but it gets easier. Be patient and persistent.
3. Ignore Negative Opinions from Those Close to You
As you dedicate time to hitting on girls, those close to you may express negative opinions. My friends and family shared unsolicited advice, deeming my efforts unserious, a waste of time, cringeworthy, and advocating the “just be yourself” approach.
Why shouldn’t you listen to them? Imagine someone writing an article on quitting heroin who has never used the drug. Their advice wouldn’t be valuable because they lack the firsthand experience of addiction and withdrawal.
Similarly, those offering opinions often don’t understand the pain of being unable to attract women you find desirable or the desperation of struggling with women in general. They don’t know how it feels to lack respect and basic human decency from others. They simply don’t get it. Many people lead average lives with low ambitions and can’t comprehend why others pursue goals outside the norm. They may shame you for trying to improve or for failing initially.
To truly improve, disregard negative opinions. Instead, seek communities and friendships with people who share your ambitions and understand your struggles.
4. Realize You Have No Other Choice
If you feel as bad about yourself as I once did, every moment of your life will have a subtle, persistent undertone of negativity. You won’t be able to truly feel happy until something changes.
If I hadn’t started changing my life, I might have turned to substance abuse or worse. Reaching rock bottom means there’s nowhere to go but up. You have nothing to lose. You have to improve.
5. Start Improving Your Physical Appearance
The dating market is fiercely competitive for men. To consistently get laid with attractive women, you must improve your looks. There’s no way around it.
If you’re unsure where to start, research “looksmaxing”.
6. Exercise Patience!
It’s frustrating, but be patient. You won’t transform from a shy, awkward individual into a confident, smooth operator in weeks or months. You also won’t go from obese to having a fitness model physique quickly. This takes time, which is precisely why it works. Most people give up before reaching their goals.
