The Ultimate Cuckold Guide: Training Your Partner for Pleasure and Passion

Laying the Foundation for His Cuckolding Journey

It’s often said that the cuckold fantasy is primarily a male domain. While many women find themselves embracing this dynamic, it usually begins with their partner expressing this desire. Perhaps your partner has shared this fantasy with you, and you’ve navigated through initial reactions of shock or confusion, possibly even considering him a bit of an oddity. Now, you find yourself intrigued by the prospect – the thrill of exploring new sexual horizons while fulfilling his deepest desires.

Imagine this scenario: You bring his fantasy to life. You sleep with someone else. You return home, sharing the experience with your husband as you engage in intimacy – perhaps a handjob, mutual masturbation, or during intercourse. He reaches a powerful climax, seemingly the best he’s ever had. But shortly after, a wave of shame washes over him.

He becomes withdrawn, irritable, perhaps even angry, all stemming from this unexpected shame. Arguments erupt, the idyllic fantasy turns sour, and the prospect of cuckolding fades away. Yet, the fantasy lingers in his mind, an unresolved desire that now carries a sting of negative emotion. He might even plead for you to try again, promising it will be different this time. But without the right preparation, history is likely to repeat itself. This is why cuckold training is essential.

This initial phase of training is crucial to preemptively address the shame spiral. It doesn’t require extensive time, but it’s a necessary step towards establishing a healthy and enduring cuckold relationship. While it requires effort on your part, it’s a surprisingly straightforward process.

The core principle is simple: leverage his intense cuckold desire – and if he’s introduced this fantasy, rest assured, it’s a powerful motivator – to subtly introduce an element of control. Once you establish this control, you can guide him away from the emotional pitfalls that often follow the initial cuckolding experience.

Orgasm Control: The Cornerstone of Cuckold Training

The key to establishing this control, and this might be a hurdle for some, lies in managing his orgasms. This is paramount for a specific reason: the more sexually frustrated your husband is, the more intensely he’ll embrace the idea of cuckolding, and the more receptive he will be to training. Once he orgasms, his cuckold desire may temporarily subside, making consistent training challenging. Therefore, you must become the gatekeeper of his climaxes.

Ideally, you can communicate to your husband – your aspiring cuckold – that you are now in charge of his orgasms without significant resistance. You dictate when he climaxes, not him. This implies a cessation of masturbation, no clandestine orgasms in the shower or when you’re not around.

For some men, adhering to this rule will be easy, fueled by the excitement of having their fantasy realized. However, some men may struggle with resisting the urge to masturbate. For these individuals, a solution exists: a chastity device. Encase his penis in a cage, with you holding the key. This prevents erections and masturbation altogether. Even if your husband is compliant, a chastity device amplifies your control and cultivates a powerful sense of anticipation in him.

Once orgasm control is established, your husband becomes significantly more trainable. You can then begin to guide him towards understanding that his cuckold fantasy is not a source of shame. It’s a delicate balance – he desires the element of humiliation inherent in the fantasy, but you want to prevent it from morphing into destructive shame. Mastering this balance requires practice, but with attentiveness to your husband’s emotional landscape, success is within reach.

Your Pleasure is His Pleasure: Shifting the Focus

With orgasm control as the first foundational layer, the second is transforming your husband’s perception of your pleasure. The goal is to cultivate a submissive mindset where his satisfaction is derived from providing you with pleasure. This involves gently guiding him away from self-centeredness, a transformation achievable through relatively simple methods.

Essentially, his orgasms become rewards earned by actions that bring you joy. This is why you’ve assumed control over his climaxes. While “pleasure” is subjective, consider incorporating both sexual and non-sexual acts into this reward system.

It’s crucial to recognize that “pleasure” for him doesn’t always equate to an orgasm. It could be a deeply passionate kiss, cuddling in lingerie he loves, or teasing his penis without allowing him to climax. However, periodic orgasms are necessary to maintain his engagement in the process.

A fascinating aspect of a cuckold’s desire is his arousal at witnessing your pleasure. Seeing you orgasm becomes a reward for him, allowing you to reciprocate by pleasuring him. If he behaves well, you might allow him to eat your pussy. You could let him finger you or use a vibrator on you. While he might be frustrated at not being able to penetrate you, he will find gratification in your orgasm, making it a fulfilling reward even without his own climax.

You’re establishing a basic reward system: desirable behavior earns pleasure, reinforcing the connection between his pleasure and your happiness. While seemingly unrelated to cuckolding, this is a vital part of the groundwork.

Random reward reinforcement is crucial. If he can predict the exact actions that lead to a reward, he’ll only perform those actions. By randomly rewarding a variety of behaviors that please you, he’ll become more proactive in anticipating and fulfilling your desires. This proactive, pleasure-seeking mindset is exactly what you want to cultivate before fully immersing yourselves in cuckold training.

To add spice to orgasm control, consider these ideas:

Make Him Work For It: Announce that he must bring you to orgasm a set number of times before he’s allowed to climax. Then, make him earn the privilege of pleasuring you. You’ll be surprised by the lengths he’ll go to for the chance to bring you to orgasm.
Tease and Denial: Integrate tease and denial into your orgasm control. Inform him of an impending handjob with a strict time limit to climax. Tease him, bring him to the brink, but deny him orgasm within the time. Repeat this over days for heightened anticipation. However, tease and denial isn’t universally enjoyed, so only proceed if your partner finds it pleasurable.
Lingerie Shopping Reward: Reward good behavior with a lingerie store visit. Let him choose something for you. Model it for him, buy it, and model it again at home. Excite him with kisses and touches. For exceptional behavior, reward him with intercourse in the new lingerie. For continued good behavior, make intercourse in the lingerie a reward to be earned.

Once you’re both comfortable with orgasm control and this type of play, you’re ready to explore the nuances of cuckold training. While some techniques might seem unconventional, they are designed to thrill your husband (who desires cuckolding) and prepare him for the right mindset when you engage in actual cuckolding.

Gently Deflating Your Would-Be Cuckold’s Ego

As many women know, a man’s ego can be a delicate instrument. In the context of cuckolding, it can become particularly sensitive, reacting with pain and potentially leading to negative outbursts. This is why subtly deflating his ego through cuckold training is crucial. The beauty of this process is that he will likely find it intensely arousing.

Several steps can be taken to achieve this, outlined below:

Emphasizing Your Husband’s Shortcomings and Your Need for “More”

A common thread in the cuckold fantasy, particularly in traditional cuckolding (not hotwife/stag scenarios), is the husband’s belief (or desire to believe) that he doesn’t satisfy you sexually as you need or deserve. This often revolves around penis size obsession, but can also involve stamina, skill, or even physical attributes.

Even if you are satisfied with your sex life (and many are), you can use these insecurities to train him into the ideal cuckold. Start gently, preferably when he’s aroused and you intend to allow him to orgasm, as associating orgasm with thoughts of you with another man is highly effective training.

Consider this scenario:

Your husband is naked in bed. You are also undressed, perhaps in lingerie. You’re beside him, stroking his erect penis. To further his training, you opt for some dirty talk focused on his perceived or real shortcomings.

“I’ve decided I deserve to be with someone with a bigger penis than yours,” you say softly.

Ideally, he moans, and his erection might even become firmer. This indicates you’re on the right track.

“You can’t truly satisfy me with this little thing,” you continue. “Not to the level I deserve. Sometimes, when I’m really aroused, I barely even feel you inside me.”

Be mindful not to be too harsh – some men require a gentler approach – as the goal is to subtly diminish, not crush, his ego.

A similar approach can be used during intercourse:

While you are on top, taking him inside you, smile as he fills you. It feels good, but perhaps not as intensely as it could. This is a common experience. But, given his cuckold desires, you can playfully suggest it could be better. Simply voice it.

Riding him slowly, bite your lip seductively, moan slightly, and then say, “Mmm, I wish your penis was a bit bigger. I wish you filled me more deeply. I wish I could feel you stretching my tight pussy.”

While you might not actually desire a stretched pussy, he will likely find arousal in the thought of you desiring someone with a larger penis. This kind of cuckold-themed dirty talk can lead to a rapid orgasm for him, which you can then use in future sessions to further diminish his ego by referencing his quick climax.

For a more positive approach, emphasize his skills in other areas:

Get him highly aroused, desperate for intercourse. Perhaps tease him by briefly sitting on his penis, taking him in for a few seconds, then pulling away to sit across his lap.

“I know you want to fuck me, baby, but I’d really love it if you’d eat my pussy instead,” you say with a smile. “You’re just so incredible with your tongue. You make me feel so, so good. I know you’re hard and desperate to be inside me, but I need a truly intense orgasm, and only your tongue can deliver that.”

You’re not directly saying he’s inadequate in intercourse, but you’re implying it. By doing so, you subtly diminish his ego and refocus his attention on your pleasure, which should be the primary focus of a cuckold husband.

Toy Play: Shared Pleasure and Training Tool

Once you’re both comfortable with dirty talk and gently deflating his ego through it, it’s time to introduce sex toys.

While many women’s sex toys are often criticized for being designed by men and not always optimally designed for female pleasure (often prioritizing deep penetration over clitoral stimulation), a phallic dildo can be an invaluable cuckold training tool. For this reason, its use is highly recommended.

Unsurprisingly, choose a dildo larger than your husband’s penis. A lifelike dildo with veins and a prominent head is optional, but any long, thick, phallic toy will suffice.

For husbands with larger penises who still desire cuckolding, size isn’t the primary issue. Use a dildo at least the size of his penis and create a suggestive scene where you pleasure yourself with it while he watches.

For the first time, use the toy on yourself while he observes. Engage in foreplay to build arousal, undress, and then present the sex toy as a tease. For added impact, reveal the toy unexpectedly.

Position him so he has a clear view of your vulva. You want him to witness the penetration, ideally with a view of your face to capture your expressions of pleasure.

Consider this scenario:

Your husband is naked, holding his erect penis, seated at the foot of the bed as instructed. You turn, open the nightstand, and retrieve the new toy. Holding it up, you see his eyes widen.

“It’s big, isn’t it?” you ask.

He nods, watching as you stroke the shaft, mimicking penis strokes, but on a significantly larger scale than his own.

“Would you like to watch me fuck myself with this big penis?” you ask.

“Yes,” he breathes, his breathing quickening, pupils dilating, and penis becoming even harder. He’s aroused by the idea of you using the toy.

“You know it’s much bigger than you,” you point out.

He nods again.

“When I was shopping, I couldn’t resist getting the big one. I thought, after all these years, I deserve to have a long, thick penis inside me, to fuck a real man’s cock that can actually fill my tight pussy,” you say.

He groans, your words hitting his deepest desires. You position the toy at your vulva, using your own lubrication, and gently insert it.

Arching your back and moaning, you reach down to stimulate your clitoris. Your husband is mesmerized, and you revel in his captivated gaze.

“Does it excite you to see a big penis fuck your wife?” you ask.

He nods.

You increase the pace and depth of penetration, stimulating your clitoris intensely. Your husband masturbates in sync with you.

“You can orgasm when I do,” you instruct. “But only when I do. Only when I orgasm all over this big penis are you allowed to climax. Understand?”

“Yes,” he confirms.

You continue, moaning loudly, your wetness audible, and orgasm forcefully on the dildo inside you. Your husband climaxes simultaneously. You observe his face, noting the intensity of his pleasure. It brings you satisfaction to have brought him to such a peak. Your own orgasm is equally intense.

You withdraw the toy, holding it up to show him, glistening with your fluids. You smile, and he smiles back, both having experienced powerful orgasms with a large dildo filling your vagina.

For variety, you can ride the toy. Have him lie down, crawl towards his head, insert the toy, and ride it while he watches closely.

Alternatively, rest the toy against his stomach or groin and ride it, as if riding him, but with a larger object. While in this position, he could reach down and stimulate your clitoris, helping you orgasm while experiencing the sensation of a “larger” penis inside you, in his mind at least.

Dirty talk is especially potent at this stage. While you might not be ready to discuss desiring another man’s penis yet, you can certainly talk about how good the toy feels, and if it’s larger than his, how good it feels to have a bigger penis inside you. Even if the sensation isn’t dramatically different, remember this is cuckold training, and the goal is to arouse him with cuckolding scenarios.

Eventually, ask him to use the toy on you. It can be incredibly effective for him to use something larger on you while his own penis remains erect and denied. He’ll likely find pleasure in controlling the “other penis” inside you and having a close-up view. Warn him to be gentle initially, as he might get carried away with enthusiasm.

Introducing the Idea of Another Man

Progress your husband’s cuckold training to explicitly introduce the concept of another man. The opportune moment is after you’ve both enjoyed toy play and he seems eager for the next level – when the fantasy edges closer to reality.

Several approaches exist for introducing another man into his cuckold training:

The Nameless, Faceless Man

Easiest to implement during toy play. Instead of referring to the toy, start talking about “him” or “his penis.”

“Baby, he feels so good inside me,” you could say while using the toy. Or, even more impactful if he’s using it on you, “His penis feels so good inside me.” For a touch of verbal humiliation, you could add, “His penis feels so much better than yours.”

Talking About an Ex-Boyfriend

This approach is more sensitive, requiring caution. It’s best if the ex is from long ago (college, perhaps), making a current encounter less realistic. While it seems counterintuitive since he desires you with another man, at this stage, he’s likely still grappling with insecurity, and pushing the reality too close could backfire.

However, sharing vivid memories of past great sex with someone else can be incredibly arousing for him and effective for training.

Example:

Cuddled on the couch with wine, a slightly tipsy, playful mood.

“You know what I was thinking about today?” you ask, rubbing his knee.

“What?” he asks, smiling, sensing your playful mood.

“A guy I dated in college,” you say.

His eyes widen, realizing his fantasy is on your mind. “Oh, really? Why were you thinking about him?”

You smile, your hand moving up his thigh, hinting at more. “Well, he was my first truly great sexual experience. It was so good, I remember it vividly. I close my eyes, and I can almost feel him inside me again, his body on mine, the pleasure of him filling me.”

You close your eyes, smile suggestively, moan softly as your hand moves between his legs. He’s now thinking about you with another man, becoming aroused, exactly as intended.

Opening your eyes, finding his now erect penis, you say, “He was much bigger than you. He filled me so much better, baby. Every time he fucked me, I had an incredible orgasm.”

He’s clearly aroused and wanting more. You decide how far to take it. Continue the dirty talk and handjob, or (perhaps better) have him perform oral sex while you describe the past encounter and how good it felt. It might be beneficial for you to visualize sex with another man while he performs oral sex, a precursor to actual cuckolding.

Talking About Someone in Your Life That You Desire

The final option is to discuss someone you haven’t slept with but could potentially become a sexual partner. This could be a coworker, a friend of his (use caution), or a stranger you saw in public.

If progress feels good, start casually mentioning men you find attractive. At the grocery store, if you pass an attractive man, smile at him. After passing, whisper to your husband that you’d love to sleep with him. It’s a small thrill for your husband. The point of this phase is to provide numerous small thrills, conditioning him to associate cuckolding with excitement, preventing emotional distress when it becomes reality.

Associate Your Husband’s Pleasure with Cuckolding

By now, you should be controlling his orgasms. Use his climaxes to reinforce cuckold training.

From this point on, most of his orgasms should have a cuckold theme. While occasional loving, non-cuckold sex is fine, it’s crucial for training to link his pleasure to his fantasy.

Assuming you are open to sex with other men (if not, cuckold training is ill-advised), you should also find pleasure in these fantasies.

Ideas to link his pleasure to cuckolding (most effective near orgasm):

During sex, casually mention wishing he had a bigger penis, could fill you more, or reach deeper.
Say another man’s name – ex-boyfriend, fantasy man – while he’s inside you.
Get him highly aroused, almost to orgasm, before penetration. Then, when he’s about to climax quickly, mention you’d rather be with a man who could last and bring you to orgasm. You might not orgasm yourself then, but it’s a fun tease.
Cuckold-themed dirty talk during handjobs – describing another man you desire, ex-boyfriends, his size inadequacy, etc. – effectively links pleasure to cuckolding.
Have him perform oral sex while he masturbates. Make it clear you’re fantasizing about someone else while he’s pleasuring you. Let him orgasm while giving you head, provided he also brings you to orgasm.

This is the most impactful cuckold training method. Lay the groundwork first, but numerous cuckold-fueled orgasms (for both of you) before actual cuckolding are crucial for ensuring he’s eager and prepared.

Monitor his emotions post-orgasm and provide aftercare. Simple reassurance, like telling him you love him, is often enough. He needs to know he’s not inadequate or failing to please you. Neglecting reassurance can lead to negative emotional spirals. Avoid this at all costs.

It’s Time to Flirt with Another Man

Now for the exciting phase. Not yet full cuckolding, but training progresses to flirting while he watches. This is a test for both of you – to see if he can handle it emotionally and if you are truly interested in cuckolding beyond fantasy.

You’re likely better equipped to find flirting opportunities in your area. Here are examples:

Bar/Club: Dress seductively, go to a bar likely frequented by your desired type of men. Sit at the bar while your husband sits discreetly at a distance, unable to overhear. Act as a single, sexy woman. Accept drinks, enjoy the thrill of open flirting without pressure.
Grocery Store: Dress attractively, even casually (athletic wear, leggings). Have your husband trail you discreetly in an aisle. Flirt with men who approach. If you’re shorter, ask a tall man to reach something on a high shelf as an icebreaker.
Online: Dating app profile (no face pics, or be honest about marriage and cuckolding). Online flirting, husband can read along. Higher chance of encountering creeps, but also eager participants.
Park: Dog walk. Dress attractively. Flirt with men who approach to pet your dog. Husband can listen nearby, appearing as another park-goer.
Gym: Gym membership. Dress to show off your body. Men will flirt. Husband can be present, appearing as a stranger working out nearby.

This phase is about more than flirting; it’s about the post-flirting interaction with your husband.

Best approach: cuckold-themed flirting with him. Ask if he enjoyed watching you flirt. Was he aroused by the thought of you giving the man your number? If asked out, tell your husband and observe his arousal.

Integrate flirting into orgasm control. If you flirted with someone particularly attractive, incorporate him into fantasies during toy play or handjobs. Ask your husband if he’d enjoy seeing you kiss or sleep with that man.

Flirting serves two purposes: further easing him into real cuckolding and boosting your confidence for when you do. Sometimes it might backfire, but usually, it builds self-esteem and leaves you feeling desirable. Eventually, you’ll be flirting regularly, enjoying the sensations of feeling attractive.

His Training Pays off When You Cuckold Him for the First Time

The training culminates here. He should be ready for his first cuckolding experience. Training should have diminished his ego, preparing him for the emotional impact of you with another man, and primed him to find it intensely pleasurable. Ideally, he will have the most incredible sexual experiences of his life after you cuckold him, and you should also experience heightened orgasms.

You are now free to cuckold him as desired, but here’s a suggested process for a smooth first experience:

Choosing the Right Guy for the First Time

This is crucial for your pleasure, ensuring a truly great sexual experience for you, which in turn benefits your husband, as his ultimate desire is your genuine pleasure with another man.

Your choice is personal. Flirting during training likely gave you options with sexual chemistry.

Involve your husband in choosing. Browse dating apps together, have him take photos (faceless, optional) for you to send to potential partners. If it’s someone you know, discuss him with your husband, why you like him, and why sex will be great. Jointly fantasizing and orgasming about the chosen partner is beneficial.

For the first time, it’s recommended not to have your husband present. It can complicate things, hindering pleasure. Your new partner might be self-conscious with an audience. Your husband might lose emotional control and disrupt the experience. It might also feel awkward for you to have sex with an observer, even your husband.

Thrill your husband by taking him shopping for your date outfit – new underwear, lingerie, a whole outfit. Use it to arouse him and further training. Ask if he thinks your date will like your outfits/lingerie. Remind him it’s about what the other man wants, not him.

Training Him on the Day of His First Cuckolding

His emotions will be heightened on this day. Use it to your advantage to deepen his training.

Frequent Check-Ins: Ask often how he’s feeling. Soothe nerves or anxiety with touch, kisses, loving words. Try to shift him towards arousal, linking cuckolding with pleasure.
Involve Him in Getting You Ready: “Cuckold’s Duties on Date Night” (article/story referenced) outlines tasks for him to prepare you for your date – showering together, dressing you, oral sex to prepare you. Tailor to your comfort level.
No Masturbation While You’re Gone: Make him promise no masturbation while you’re out. If he’s in chastity, this is unnecessary. Crucial for training. Masturbation before your return ruins the training opportunity, indicating weakness. If he masturbates, express disappointment and deny cuckold-related pleasure for a period as mild punishment.
Text Him While You’re Out: He’ll experience emotional waves – anxiety, arousal, fear of losing you. Texts aim to maintain arousal over anxiety. If things are going well, update him – date looks good, first touch, kiss, etc. Inform him of going to his place/hotel. Let him know you’re about to have sex. Keep his focus on your date, not anxiety.
Make Him Cum When You Get Home: Upon return, your mission is his orgasm (assuming you had one). Prolong it, filling his mind with details of your sex. Answer his questions lustily. If he wants oral sex, oblige if comfortable. Choose how he orgasms – handjob, blowjob, sex. Let him climax while you fill his mind with erotic images of the other man who fucked you.

Dealing with His Feelings and Aftercare

Post-orgasm, he’s likely to experience complex, potentially negative feelings. If you want a well-trained cuckold, guide him through these.

Thankfully, if you followed the training plan, it’s designed to maintain his emotional balance. Aftercare is key. Reassure him of your love, that he’s still the man you love most, and that you enjoyed fulfilling his fantasy (if true).

It shouldn’t be overly demanding. Monitor his emotional state. Men might not express feelings easily; he might be struggling silently. Take initiative. Affection – hugs, kisses, “I love you” – can suffice.

Encourage communication, and prevent emotional breakdown due to your sex with another man. It might seem paradoxical that a man fantasizing about this could become sullen after, but it’s possible and destructive.

Letting Your Cuckold Watch

Article referenced: “letting your cuckold watch.”

In short, watching you with another man can be highly pleasurable for him and a training tool:

Witnessing Great Sex is Training: Seeing you have better sex with someone else reinforces the cuckold mindset. It’s arousing training.
Hand Holding During Sex: Have him hold your hand while another man penetrates you. Connects him to you during the act. Maintain eye contact, smile, moan towards him during orgasm with the other man. Solidifies his cuckold role.
You Can Cum Together: He should never orgasm before you when watching. High risk of emotional outburst. If he does, remove him. If not, have him orgasm with you, ideally simultaneously with the other man inside you. Reinforces his cuckold position – watching you and the “bull” orgasm from great sex while he orgasms stroking himself.
He Can Worship You Afterwards: If he didn’t orgasm while watching, he might enjoy oral sex after the “bull” withdraws (more advanced). Reinforces his cuckold position.

Sex with Your Cuckold

Post-first cuckolding, sex with your husband can continue his training. Not necessary every time, and don’t make your entire sex life cuckold-centric, but useful for shaping him into your desired cuckold.

How?

Aftercare: Sex as aftercare, devoid of cuckolding themes, just connection. If he’s insecure about your great sex with another man, this can help (unless he’s sexually inadequate, then it might worsen it).
Cuckold-Fueled Orgasm: Opposite of aftercare, sex while fueling his cuckold fantasies. Have sex after your “bull” has been inside you. Dirty talk about the other man, his penis size, your desire for him. After his orgasm, tell him you love him.
Reinforcing Desires & Your Pleasure Through Q&A: You on top, engaging his eyes, teasing him. Ask questions probing his desires: “Do I deserve someone better?”, “Do I deserve [Bull’s Name]’s penis?”, “Do I deserve him whenever I want?”, “Can you satisfy me with your penis?”, “Can you fuck me as well as him?”, “Can you make me orgasm as hard?”.
Sex Where You Don’t Cum: If possible, have him orgasm without you reaching climax. Reinforces your need for someone else – your “bull” – to satisfy you.

You’ve Mastered the Basics of Cuckold Training

Following this plan, adapted to your needs, you likely have a well-trained cuckold and a more exciting sex life, including great sex with another man, better orgasms for both of you, and more overall excitement.

Remember, the primary goal is his emotional well-being during cuckolding, preventing marital implosion.

Also for your well-being. Gradual steps, weeks or months per step, allow you to understand his fantasy and see its potential beauty for both of you.

Want more? Cuckolding is a deep fantasy. Many avenues to explore for astonishing pleasure. Continue reading for advanced and extreme stages.

Advanced Cuckold Training

You’ve trained him into a happy cuckold, loving your “bull.” Enhanced sexual satisfaction for both. Cuckolding works for you, ready to go deeper – advanced lifestyle.

Advanced training further develops the cuckold mindset, unlocking more pleasure for him (even harder orgasms) and a more fulfilling sex life for you with both husband and “bull.” Deeper comfort in your new roles, potentially impacting aspects beyond the bedroom.

Ideas to further develop the cuckold mindset:

Oral Sex Immediately Post-“Bull” Sex: Make it routine. Husband un-orgasmed, welcome him between your legs to worship your pussy after another man’s satisfaction. If clitoris sensitive, have him kiss/lick labia or inside vagina. Instruct him to soothe your sore pussy after intense sex. Push dirty talk – “bull” fucks better, husband unworthy, etc. Optionally deny him orgasm despite arousal. Or, let him orgasm with his tongue deep inside, where the “bull”‘s penis was moments ago.
Mandatory Preparation: Husband prepares you for “bull” dates – washing, trimming pubic hair to “bull”‘s liking, drying, lotioning, watching hair/makeup, dressing in lingerie, ass worship while getting ready. Make him aware of getting ready for a superior man.
Husband Buys Condoms: Husband buys condoms, ideally Magnum if “bull” is large. Shopping list: “Condoms, so another man can fuck your wife like you’re incapable.” He holds the note, reads it before buying condoms for your satisfaction with another man.
“Bull” as Primary Partner: Likely happens naturally if “bull” is superior sexually. Emphasize this often, even non-sexually. “Did you know my bull fucked me more this month than you?” whisper in a movie theater, kiss his cheek, moan softly. He’ll love it.
Increased Denial: More control, denial. Deny watching, orgasm after you with “bull,” oral sex post-“bull,” intercourse, unprotected sex (condom only for him). Use imagination, he’ll enjoy it.
Emphasize “Bull”‘s Superiority: Many ways. “Bull” sleeps in master bedroom, husband in guest room. Give “bull” things husband doesn’t get – deep blowjobs, anal sex. Deny husband things you give “bull.” Reserve blowjobs for “bull,” swallow his cum, not husband’s. Special lingerie for “bull.” Endless possibilities, every choice reinforces his place, aiding training.

Training Your Cuckold Husband to be More Submissive

Advanced cuckolding benefits from a more submissive husband. He’ll likely find bedroom submission thrilling.

Ideas to increase submissiveness (complementing previous techniques, especially orgasm control): He earns orgasm by pleasing you, do as you desire to climax. He’ll find it thrilling:

Chastity: If not already, now is the time. Total orgasm control, control of his penis – his manhood center. Lock it, wear the key. Tease constantly with the key. Constant arousal. Needs to obey or never leave the cage.
Consume Cum: Deeply submissive act. He’ll resist, making submission more impactful. Instant submission feeling, doing something for you he wouldn’t otherwise. Aftercare benefit.
Oral Sex in Front of “Bull”: Order him to perform oral sex. His place to worship, “bull”‘s place to fuck. Watch him kneel, submit. Both you and “bull” watch. He’s getting you wet for another man. “Good boy” might thrill him. Use it if it does.
Submissive Watching Position: Kneeling bedside to watch, not in bed or chair, increases submissiveness. Hands behind back, even in chastity, deepens submission.
Bondage Watching: Free from cage, arouse him, then tie/handcuff to chair. Massively aroused watching you and “bull,” wanting to masturbate but unable, viewing “bull”‘s penis inside you.
Cuckold Sex Positions: Cuckold 69 (him below), reverse cowgirl on “bull” with cuckold between legs watching, missionary with “bull” while you’re on top of cuckold, missionary with “bull” while you sit on cuckold’s chest (carefully).
Service During Dates: Cuckold gets drinks, towels, lube. Train him to serve in every way when “bull” is present, before and after dates.

Introduce Bisexual Play

Convincing a straight man to perform oral sex on another man for you is a powerful display of control and submission. Not for everyone, but consider bisexual play for advanced training.

Not about his sexuality, but his willingness to submit to your desires. Pleasure for some women is in dominating their husband into bisexual acts.

Success with slow introduction. Progression over weeks/months:

Licking Toys You’ve Used: After toy use (no “bull” available), have him clean the toy with his mouth. Act like it’s incredibly hot to watch.
Condom on “Bull”‘s Penis: Jointly the first time. He prepares the “bull” – the man better than him sexually – embracing his lesser status.
Guide “Bull”‘s Penis Inside You: He guides the condom-covered penis inside you. Easiest on top, works in any position. Small step in bisexual play, manageable for him.
Taste Pussy After “Bull” Withdraws: Before oral sex on another man, have him perform oral sex on you moments after the “bull” has been inside you. Ask if he likes the taste of “bull”‘s penis, his tongue where a superior penis was.
Kiss Him After Oral Sex on “Bull”: Perform oral sex on “bull,” cuckold watches. Pull away, kiss husband immediately, tongue in mouth. Ask if he likes the taste of “bull”‘s penis.
Kiss “Bull”‘s Penis: First time while you’re giving oral sex to “bull.” Cuckold approaches, quick kiss of penis. Moan when he does. Make it seem arousing to you. Stroke his penis while he does, linking contact with “bull”‘s penis to his arousal.
Same with Balls: Cuckold kisses “bull”‘s balls. Initially, do it together. Warm him up to sexual contact with another man.
Joint Oral Sex on “Bull”: Now he takes “bull”‘s penis in his mouth. Jointly the first few times. Start with a kiss, then lick, then take the head in his mouth while you offer encouraging, lusty dirty talk. Play with his penis. Make it obvious you’re aroused.
Make Him “Fluff” Your Bull: He needs to perform oral sex for you. First, watch you and “bull” engage in foreplay. Then have cuckold perform oral sex on you to get you wet. Then, tell him he needs to prepare your bull. Oral sex on “bull” to get him erect for your vagina. Works well on couch, cuckold kneeling before you. Submissive position, more inclined to obey.
Pussy to Mouth Play: He’s well-trained bisexual cuckold now. Further training. Riding “bull,” hop off, tell cuckold to lick pussy juices off penis. Doggystyle, “bull” withdraws, feeds penis to cuckold briefly. Missionary works too.
Cleaning “Bull”‘s Penis Post-Sex: “Bull”‘s penis wet, slippery, possibly with cum after sex. Have husband clean it with his mouth.
Creampie Cleanup/Cum Feeding: Extension of bisexual play – husband eats another man’s semen from you or your body. In many ways, ultimate cuckolding form. Indulge when he’s ready for this thrilling/humiliating task.

Repeat each step multiple times. Desensitize him to bisexual play, something he’ll likely resist initially. Take your time, make it fun and sexy, the point of cuckold training.

Introduce Anal Play

Most straight men aren’t into anal penetration, potentially humiliating and uncomfortable. Anal play can be useful for deeper cuckold training.

Goal – as always – better cuckold. Assert control, tame ego (recurring issue for cuckolds, inherently humiliating kink).

Done right, anal play can be pleasurable, and tame his ego, preventing negative reactions to your superior sex with another man.

Tips for introducing anal play:

Rubbing Asshole During Masturbation: Cuckold-themed masturbation. Stroke penis, dirty talk about sex with “bull.” Play with balls, taint, then asshole. Small circles, no penetration, just tease. Watch orgasm. Don’t comment, let him process that anal play contributed to orgasm. Vibrator works even better than fingers.
Butt Plug Play: Small plug (set of increasing sizes). Insert plug before “bull” arrives. No explanation needed. Your desire is reason enough. Slightly humiliating (or more, depending on his feelings). Humiliation = arousal for cuckold. Plug for punishment too – if misbehaves, bend him over, insert plug, spank, then back to his day.
Dildo Penetration: Dildo for anal sex. Small dildo, lube. Rub around asshole during handjob/masturbation. Slowly penetrate. During arousal/near orgasm. Have orgasm with toy inside. Orgasm during anal sex – delightfully humiliating.
Pegging: Strapon, you penetrate him. Role reversal – you with penis, doing the fucking – potent thrill, brings out submissive side.

While anal play and cuckolding might seem unrelated, anal play trains him, makes him better behaved, especially with orgasms. Anal play distances cuckold further from “bull,” improving behavior, particularly if anal play includes his orgasms.

Mild Feminization

Advanced, not for everyone. Touch of feminization to ensure exceptional behavior during cuckolding and daily life.

Mild form: panties as humiliation. Surprise panties, make him wear them when “bull” visits. Cuckolds belong in panties when a real man is present. Best when orgasm-denied, humiliation = arousal.

Panties sparingly, lose effect if overused. Not every “bull” visit, occasionally for misbehavior in preceding days. Outside cuckolding too – panties to work if misbehaves, before date to remind him of his place.

Panty style impacts humiliation level. White cotton vs. pink lace thong vs. pink satin with bows. Build panty collection for training.

Involve a Friend

Challenging, need specific friend. But if you have one, deepens training.

Someone else (besides “bull”) knowing about cuckolding makes it real, harder for him to deny angst. Accepts cuckold status, your preference for “bull,” and his sexual inadequacy.

Kinky friend for “cucksitting.” You date “bull,” friend stays with cuckold overnight – prevent masturbation while you’re out with a better man.

“Cucksitter” works on training. Questions about you and “bull,” his cuckold desire. See locked penis. Permission to play – worship her pussy/ass, or simple foot rub. Submission to another woman, helpful for cuckold training.

Friend to talk to about lifestyle is helpful even without “cucksitting.”

Extreme Cuckolding

Further extreme options. Not recommended, changes marriage, husband perception. Almost impossible to reverse. Arousing, better training, but proceed cautiously.

Extreme cuckolding ideas for kinkier lifestyle:

Full Feminization

Panties occasionally for humiliation, but what if you want more? No longer see him as a man, want to make it clear? Full feminization. Constantly remind him he’s no longer a man, dressed as a woman for that reason. Full feminization steps:

Shave Everything: Neck down, all body hair gone, like modern women.
Panties Always: Panties are permanent. Male underwear only for absolute necessity. Frequent panty shopping (salesperson knows it’s for husband).
Bras Always: Bras for him. Delicate lace bras. Matching bra/panty sets. Wear them constantly. No longer a real man, might as well wear women’s underwear.
Lingerie Sleepwear: Sleep in feminine lingerie. Satin/silk nighties, nightgowns, camisoles/boyshorts, satin pajamas. Perfume spray for extra femininity.
Ear Piercings: Pierced ears. Feminine earrings at home.
Lipstick for Oral Sex: Frequent oral sex on “bull.” Lipstick when performing oral sex. Red lips around a real man’s penis look good.
Women’s Clothes for Chores: Housework in feminine underwear/sleepwear. Maid uniform for chores.
Female-Style Masturbation: If caged, only female-style masturbation. Vibrator on caged penis. Practice needed, but learns to orgasm this way, enjoys it.

Many more ideas to eradicate his masculinity.

Move Him Out of the Master Bedroom

If at this stage, likely little sex with you, or none. “Bull” is primary partner. Husband moves to guest room.

No longer man of the house. Master bedroom for man of the house. Reserved for man meeting your sexual needs. “Bull” or multiple partners sleep in your bed, husband relegated to guest room.

More impactful if you occasionally invite him to master bedroom. Bed becomes a treat.

Further training – sex with husband in master bedroom closer to lesbian sex. Lingerie for him. Play with vibrators together, grind, oral sex on you. He’s not a man in your eyes, treat him as such during intimate play.

Make Him a Pussy Free Cuckold

Most cuckolding couples still have sex. Sex with you is training tool, your pussy highly pleasurable for him.

Extreme training – pussy-free cuckold. Never fuck you again. His penis unworthy of you or your vagina (or mouth). Last time he fucked you. Only real men now, he’s not a real man, so no more sex with you.

Liberating for you, but must commit to decision. If making this decision, likely he’s sexually worthless anyway. Ensure he still orgasms sometimes, total sexual deprivation is too harsh.

Aggressive Small Penis Humiliation

Only if applicable. All-out assault on his penis to keep him in his place, train him that he shouldn’t fuck you.

More than quick comments about size, but his penis is utterly useless. Couldn’t please you or any woman with his pathetic excuse for a penis. Ensure he knows this.

Combine small penis humiliation with chastity. Cage makes penis smaller, humiliate him about it.

“Look at that worthless, locked up little penis. Any woman want that, cucky?”

“That tiny, sad, pathetic penis never gets my pussy again. Shouldn’t have let you in the first place, you’re unworthy, never making that mistake again, pathetic excuse for a man.”

Heavy humiliation, calibrate to his tolerance.

Your Bull Fucks Him

Bisexual “bull” needed (or bi/gay friend, online). Straight husband on hands and knees, anal sex from another man – extreme cuckolding.

Symbolically takes rest of his manhood, especially if he offers it willingly. He willingly lets another man fuck him. Panties lowered. Ass lubed. Thick penis head enters. He’s fucked, hopefully bareback, takes load in ass, complete destruction of manhood.

Already deep humiliation, this is another level, proceed cautiously. If you, “bull,” and cuckold enjoy it, repeat.

Try My List of Cuckold Humiliation Ideas

“Naughty cuckold humiliation ideas” article referenced. Extreme ideas at bottom of page. For taking training to absolute extreme.

Always remember aftercare. Not trying to destroy him (divorce if that’s goal). Aftercare reassures him of your love, secret to effective cuckold training.

Hope these ideas are helpful/entertaining. Achieve training goals. Thanks for reading.

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