Parental Guide to Child Abduction: Protecting Your Child and Seeking Their Return

Your Child is Missing, and You Suspect Parental Involvement

If your child is missing and you believe the other parent may be involved, immediate action is crucial:

• Verify your child’s location and safety: First, try to contact the other parent directly or reach out to mutual friends who might know their whereabouts.
• Look for abduction indicators: Be alert for any signs suggesting the other parent may have intentionally taken your child without your consent.
• Attempt resolution with the other parent: If possible, communicate with the other parent to understand the situation and seek a peaceful resolution.
• Contact law enforcement: If you are unable to locate your child or suspect abduction, immediately contact the police.

Risk of International Child Abduction

If you fear your child is in danger of being abducted or being kept outside of your country, act swiftly and contact the following for assistance:

• Your Legal Counsel: A lawyer specializing in family law and international child abduction can advise you on your legal rights and options.
• Passport Issuing Authority: Alert the passport program to prevent the issuance of a passport to the abducting parent or your child without your consent.
• Local Police Department: File a report and provide them with all relevant information about the potential abduction.
• Consular Services at Your Foreign Affairs Department: They can provide guidance and support if the abduction is international or suspected to be.

If you believe your child is at risk of international parental child abduction, or has already been abducted abroad or is being prevented from returning, there are crucial steps you can take, even if you are uncertain about the abduction.

Contact Your Local Police Department Immediately

Your local police should be your first point of contact. Inform them that you believe your child has been abducted internationally. They will likely ask for detailed information, including:

• Your reasons for believing your child has been abducted.
• Comprehensive details about your child and the suspected abducting parent:
  • Physical description (age, height, weight, eye, hair, and skin color; provide recent photographs if available).
  • Any citizenship they may hold in countries other than your own.
• Any existing parenting or custody orders or agreements.
• Your contact information.

Local police may initiate an investigation and share abduction details with national and international organizations.

Emergency Contact Information:

Dial 911 or your local emergency number.

Inform Your Support Network

Reach out to family, friends, your child’s school, healthcare providers, and daycare. Notify them that you have contacted the police and request they immediately inform you if they receive any information about your child or the abducting parent.

Extending your contact to the other parent’s family and friends can also be beneficial. They might provide information about your child’s location, which is vital in an abduction investigation. Maintain a friendly approach in these communications.

Contact Consular Services at Your Foreign Affairs Department

Consular services are provided by your government to citizens abroad through embassies, consulates, and service points.

A consular case management officer (CMO) will be assigned to your case. CMOs possess expertise in international child abduction and country-specific information. They can direct you to relevant organizations both domestically and internationally.

When contacting Consular Services, be prepared to provide:

• Full names, dates of birth, and citizenships of your child, yourself, and the other parent.
• Date of last contact with the other parent and your child.
• A detailed account of the situation, including background and actions taken (e.g., police contact, legal consultation).
• Travel documents the child and other parent might possess (e.g., passports, visas).
• Copies of legal documents such as parenting or custody orders, mediated agreements, or signed travel consent letters.
• Any known travel plans of the other parent or ties they have to another country.

Your CMO will seek your consent before contacting other agencies.

Contact Information:

Consular Services at [Your Foreign Affairs Department Name]
[Insert Toll-Free Number if applicable] (toll-free from within your country and relevant regions)
[Insert International Direct Dial Number] (call collect where available)
[Insert Government Travel Website Link]

Seek Legal Counsel

A lawyer specializing in international child abduction can:

• Provide legal advice and represent you in court.
• Outline your available legal options.
• Protect your interests in dealings with governmental and international organizations.
• Advise on obtaining parenting or custody orders, even post-abduction.
• Assist in mediation with the other parent and agreement drafting.

Important Note:

If you know the country where your child is, consider contacting a lawyer in that country as well. Your CMO can provide lists of local lawyers.

Contact Information:

[Federation of Law Societies or Relevant Legal Governing Body in Your Country]
[Insert Phone Number]
Fax: [Insert Fax Number]
[Insert General Email Address]

Inform the Passport Program

Contact the Passport Program and detail your situation. They can:

• Add your child to the Passport Program System Lookout List, alerting officials to any passport applications for your child.
• Refuse new passport issuance if it contradicts court orders or separation agreements.
• Request a review by Public Safety authorities to consider passport revocation to prevent abduction.

Important Note:

The Passport Program may require copies of legal documents related to your child, such as custody orders or separation agreements.

Contact Information:

[Your Country’s] Passport Program
[Insert Toll-Free Number] (toll-free from within your country and relevant regions)
[Insert Passport Program Website Link]

Connect with Non-Governmental Organizations (NGOs)

Numerous NGOs offer support for missing children, ranging from emotional support to search assistance. Some have investigators who can help locate children both domestically and internationally.

Contact Information:

Refer to the directory at the end of this document for a list of NGOs. Assess which services best suit your needs.

Gather Comprehensive Information

Identify any sources that might provide useful information in your search. These could include individuals, organizations, records, or lists that might reveal the whereabouts of your child and the abducting parent. Sources vary case by case, so explore as many as possible, such as:

• The other parent or child’s frequented locations.
• After-school activity venues, preschools, and daycares.
• Organizations the other parent belongs to, like clubs or religious institutions.
• Medical and dental records.
• School records.
• The other parent’s social media accounts.
• Contact lists from phones or online accounts.

Maintain detailed notes of all contacts, dates, and information gathered to track your efforts.

Important Notes:

Consult with local police or a lawyer before contacting any organization.
Some organizations have privacy regulations limiting information disclosure.
Be aware that contacts might be inadvertently assisting the abducting parent.

Consider Social Media and Local Media Use

While social media and local media can raise awareness, public attention may not always be beneficial in child abduction cases.

Media attention can alert abducting parents, potentially driving them further into hiding and increasing stress and danger for the child.

Discuss the pros and cons of media engagement with your lawyer and supporting organizations to make an informed decision.

Seeking Your Child’s Return

If you know your child’s location, several avenues for their return exist:

• Negotiated Voluntary Return: Attempt to negotiate directly with the abducting parent for your child’s return.
• Hague Convention Application: If applicable, apply for return under the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction.
• Custody Application in the Foreign Country: Pursue a parenting/custody order in the country where your child is located.

You may pursue multiple options concurrently. Research family and child welfare laws in the country your child is in to understand your best course of action.

Consult a Consular Case Management Officer (CMO)

Contact a CMO at your Foreign Affairs Department. CMOs offer various assistance but also have limitations.

CMOs can:

• Facilitate contact with officials in the country where your child is.
• Request welfare checks on your child by foreign authorities.
• Provide information on the foreign country’s customs and practices.
• Offer lists of local lawyers, notaries, and translation services.
• Provide travel advisories and ensure consular service availability in that country.
• Mediate communication with the abducting parent if direct contact is refused.

CMOs and government officials cannot:

• Directly search for missing children.
• Provide legal advice, mediation, or court representation.
• Cover legal or other expenses.
• Intervene in private legal matters or foreign legal processes.
• Enforce domestic custody agreements in other countries.
• Force foreign countries to make specific custody decisions or apply their laws in a particular way.
• Take actions violating foreign laws.
• Assist in re-abducting your child.
• Assume physical or legal custody of your child.

Legal assistance in gathering information is advisable. Understand the legal processes in both your country and the foreign country. A domestic lawyer can advise on dealing with foreign authorities, and hiring a lawyer in the foreign country, even without immediate court action, can be beneficial for navigating their legal system. Ensure clear contracts with any legal counsel regarding services and fees.

For Hague Convention applications, contact your jurisdiction’s Central Authority for guidance.

Important Notes:

Foreign authorities may lack information on your child or the abducting parent.
Information sharing from foreign countries may be restricted.
Be prepared for potential short-notice travel to retrieve your child or attend foreign legal proceedings.

Voluntary Return Negotiations

Negotiating a voluntary return should be your initial step. Abducting parents may reconsider their actions, and communication or third-party negotiation can facilitate a voluntary return.

Involve Friends and Family: Enlist the help of mutual friends and family to communicate with the abducting parent and seek solutions. They may also facilitate visitation with your child.

Neutral Negotiation Location: Choose a safe, neutral environment for negotiations to foster cooperation.

Engage Police: Police can negotiate with the other parent. Even if you negotiate independently, agreements may require clearance with police or prosecutors.

Inform Your CMO: Notify your CMO immediately upon deciding to negotiate and maintain contact throughout. CMOs and consular officers can assist in contacting the abducting parent, and mediate if direct communication is difficult.

Consider Professional Mediation: A mediator helps resolve conflicts impartially. Resources for qualified mediators may be available through your government’s family justice services.

Hague Convention Central Authority: If the Hague Convention applies, the Central Authority can aid in securing a voluntary return.

Advantages of voluntary return negotiations include:

• Speedier resolution.
• Out-of-court process.
• Lower cost than litigation.
• Minimized parental conflict and child upheaval.

Negotiation is the simplest, least complex option if successful. You can also initiate other legal procedures, like Hague Convention applications, while negotiating.

Hague Convention Applications

The 1980 Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction is a key international treaty aiding parents in returning children abducted to signatory countries.

It establishes procedures for parents to request courts in the country where the child is taken to order the child’s return to their country of habitual residence. It also fosters cooperation between countries via designated “central authorities.”

Hague Convention decisions do not address parenting, decision-making responsibility, or custody. Applications seek the child’s return to the country of habitual residence for domestic courts to decide on parenting matters.

For detailed information, visit the Hague Convention’s Child Abduction Section at hcch.net.

Applying Under the Hague Convention

If your child is in a country that is a signatory to the Hague Convention with your country, you can apply for their return if:

• The child is under 16 years old.
• The child was habitually resident in your country before the abduction.
• The abduction violates your custody rights or a court order.

Central Authority Application Process:

Your jurisdiction’s Central Authority assesses if Hague Convention application conditions are met. Contact them as soon as possible after abduction.

If conditions are met, the Central Authority provides application process details, required steps including foreign court procedures, and necessary documentation.

Working with the Central Authority, they will forward your application to the Central Authority in the country where your child is abducted.

The central authorities collaborate to facilitate the child’s return or access, including:

• Locating the child.
• Facilitating voluntary return or parental agreement.
• Exchanging social background information and case updates.
• Providing information on local family laws and legal aid options.
• Removing obstacles to Hague Convention application.
• Making administrative arrangements for safe return.

Central Authorities prioritize parental agreement for voluntary return. If agreement is not reached, a foreign court hearing will likely determine if the child should be returned.

You can also apply directly to the court in the abduction country, bypassing the Central Authority.

The court decides if Hague Convention return conditions are met. Legal representation in court may be necessary.

Hague Convention Application Granted:

The court will order the child’s return to their habitual residence if:

• Wrongful removal or retention in a Contracting Party country is established.
• No Convention exceptions apply.

The Central Authority can assist with return arrangements. If the abducting parent doesn’t comply, enforcement of the return order may be necessary.

Important Note:

Your country cannot enforce orders in another country.

Hague Convention Application Refused:

Courts may refuse return under the Hague Convention under specific exceptions, including:

• Proceedings initiated over a year post-abduction, and the child is settled in the new environment.
• Custody rights were not being exercised at the time of abduction.
• Consent was given to the child’s removal or retention.
• Grave risk of harm to the child upon return.
• Child objects to return and is of sufficient age and maturity.

Even if refused, other legal options for seeking return exist, including:

• Appealing to a higher court in the same country.
• Pursuing other legal actions in that country, such as seeking custody under local laws.

Important Notes:

Hague Convention processes can take months or years.
Final decisions depend on local laws and may be challenging to enforce.
Custody rights are required for Hague Convention applications; a custody order, though not always mandatory, can be helpful.
Legal aid in the foreign country may be available. The foreign Central Authority can provide application process information.

If the Hague Convention Does Not Apply

Child abductions to non-Hague Convention countries pose significant challenges due to differing legal, cultural, and political landscapes, making return difficult or impossible.

Alternative options to consider include:

• Seeking recognition of a domestic custody order in the foreign court.
• Pursuing a new custody order under the laws of the foreign country.

Engaging a lawyer from the foreign country is crucial to explore all options.

Consult your CMO, supporting organizations, and legal counsel. Hiring lawyers in both the country where the child is retained and in your home country is highly recommended.

Criminal Charges Against the Abducting Parent

In Your Country: Filing criminal charges against the abducting parent may be an option, discuss this with your lawyer. Parental child abduction is a criminal offense. Police and prosecutors decide on charges after a complaint is filed.

In the Foreign Country: Not all countries criminalize parental child abduction. If they do, prosecution for abduction committed abroad may be possible. However, prosecution may not result in the child’s return. Your CMO can provide information on the foreign country’s criminal justice system and cooperation likelihood in abduction cases.

Potential Benefits of Criminal Charges:

Criminal charges can empower law enforcement to locate and arrest the abductor, potentially leading to locating the child.

Other advantages include:

• Domestic police can request foreign authorities to locate and arrest the abductor, aiding in finding the child.
• A domestic arrest warrant can be issued, increasing chances of arrest if the abductor returns.
• The abductor may voluntarily return the child upon learning of charges.
• Publicizing missing child posters may become possible.
• Extradition of the abductor to your country may be pursued.

Potential Risks of Criminal Charges:

Criminal charges may hinder efforts to secure the child’s return. There’s no guarantee of foreign authorities locating or arresting the abductor, or immediate arrest upon location.

Considerations include:

• The return process is separate from criminal proceedings.
• Criminal processes may be irreversible once charges are filed. For instance, dropping charges for child return is at the prosecutor’s discretion.
• Family court proceedings for custody arrangements will still be necessary.
• In Hague Convention cases, foreign courts might consider potential arrest and charges upon return, possibly affecting return decisions.
• Extradition of the abductor may not include the child.

Criminal processes are complex and may have unintended outcomes. Further considerations:

• You and your family may need to testify in court.
• Your child’s feelings toward you may change if you initiate the other parent’s arrest or imprisonment.

Re-abduction Risks

Attempting to take your child from the foreign country without permission is considered abduction and a crime.

• Foreign countries may issue arrest warrants and extradition requests.
• Re-abduction attempts can harm future legal efforts.
• Arrest, imprisonment, deportation, and being barred from future visits are risks.
• Re-abduction could provoke further abduction by the other parent.

Important Note:

Consular officers must adhere to foreign laws and cannot assist in illegal activities, including re-abduction, nor can they take custody of your child.

Reuniting with Your Child

Reuniting with your child is a process requiring readjustment for both you and your child.

Bringing Your Child Home

The handover process can vary in duration depending on local authorities and the child’s situation.

If your child lacks a valid passport, your embassy or consulate can work with the Passport Program to issue necessary travel documents.

Readjustment Period

Reunification can be stressful for the entire family. Post-abduction, you, your child, and family members may need time to readjust to being together. Factors influencing this process include:

• Duration of separation and the child’s understanding of events.
• Nature of the child’s relationship with you and your family.
• Closeness to the abducting parent and their family.
• Child’s integration into life in the foreign country.
• Any religious, cultural, or linguistic differences developed during separation.

Some children transition smoothly, while others face difficulties. Psychological or family counseling can be beneficial. Refer to the directory for organizations offering counseling services.

Ongoing Legal Matters

Reunification may not conclude legal issues. Depending on the steps taken, ongoing court proceedings related to custody or criminal court appearances as a witness against the abductor may be required.

To prevent future abductions, discuss options like parenting or custody orders with your lawyer.

Inform all contacts involved in the search and recovery process of your child’s return, including individuals, organizations, media, police, legal professionals, consular officials, and Central Authorities if applicable.

Glossary

Central Authority: A designated body in each jurisdiction responsible for handling Hague Convention cases. Their role includes managing incoming and outgoing cases, facilitating communication, and providing guidance.

International Child Abduction: The removal or retention of a child outside their country of habitual residence by a parent or guardian, breaching the custody rights of another parent or a court order.

Habitual Residence: Under the Hague Convention, the country where a child normally lives, determined by factors like duration, regularity, conditions, and reasons for stay, and nationality.

Parenting or Custody Order: A legal decision outlining parenting arrangements, including time spent with each parent and decision-making responsibilities. Terminology may vary by jurisdiction.

Parenting or Custody Agreement: A mutual understanding between parents regarding child-rearing arrangements, often reached through cooperation, sometimes with legal or mediation assistance.

Rights of Custody: Under the Hague Convention, rights pertaining to a child’s care, including the right to determine their place of residence.

Directory of Resources

(Note: Contact information is subject to change. Verify details before contacting.)

Government of [Your Country] Contacts

[YOUR FOREIGN AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT NAME]
Consular Services
[Insert Full Address]
[Insert Toll-Free Number] (toll-free from within your country and relevant regions)
[Insert International Direct Dial Number] (call collect where available)
[Insert Email Address]
[Insert Government Travel Website Link]

[YOUR COUNTRY’S] PASSPORT PROGRAM
[Insert Full Address]
[Insert Toll-Free Number] (toll-free from within your country and relevant regions)
[Insert Passport Program Website Link]

[YOUR COUNTRY’S] BORDER SERVICES AGENCY
[Insert Phone Number 1]
[Insert Phone Number 2]
[Insert Email Address]

[YOUR COUNTRY’S] NATIONAL POLICE FORCE (e.g., ROYAL CANADIAN MOUNTED POLICE)
National Missing Children Services
[Insert Email Address]
[Insert Website Link]

Central Authorities in [Your Country] (for Hague Convention Cases)

(List Central Authorities for different regions/provinces/states within your country, mirroring the original document’s format but adapted for your country’s structure. Include contact details like address, phone, fax, email, contact persons)

Non-Governmental Organizations

(List NGOs relevant to child abduction in your target English-speaking market. Adapt the list from the original, replacing Canadian-specific NGOs with those more relevant to your audience. Include organization name, address, phone, website, email.)
(Example placeholders, replace with actual NGOs):

[CHILD PROTECTION NGO 1]
[Address]
[Phone Number]
[Website]

[CHILD FIND NGO 1]
[Address]
[Phone Number]
[Website]

[FAMILY MEDIATION NGO]
[Address]
[Phone Number]
[Website]

[INTERNATIONAL CHILD ABDUCTION NGO]
[Address]
[Phone Number]
[Website]

[MISSING CHILDREN’S NETWORK – Country Specific]
[Address]
[Phone Number]
[Website]

Checklists

These checklists are designed to guide you through the process, ensuring you gather necessary information and take essential steps.

Information and Documentation Checklist

Maintaining a comprehensive file of information about your child, the other parent, and abduction details is vital. Request copies of all written correspondence from anyone acting on your behalf, including lawyers.

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Child

• ❏ Full name, including alternative spellings, variations, and nicknames
• ❏ Date of birth
• ❏ Place of birth, including hospital; town; region/state; and country
• ❏ Address before abduction
• ❏ Passport number or other travel document, with place and date of issue
• ❏ Details of foreign passports or travel documents used
• ❏ Nationality (all possible nationalities)
• ❏ Height (measurement and date)
• ❏ Weight (measurement and date)
• ❏ Gender
• ❏ Eye color
• ❏ Hair color (retain hair strands for DNA testing)
• ❏ Recent photograph
• ❏ Identifying features (marks, scars, glasses, tattoos, braces)
• ❏ Medical information
• ❏ Fingerprints (if available)
• ❏ Dental records (if available)

Abducting Parent or Other Person

• ❏ Full name, including alternative spellings, variations, and nicknames
• ❏ Date of birth
• ❏ Place of birth
• ❏ Nationality, including foreign citizenship and legal status in your country
• ❏ Details of passport and other identification documents
• ❏ Occupation, including professional certifications
• ❏ Information on current and past workplaces
• ❏ Phone numbers and current address or location information
• ❏ Names and addresses of relatives and friends in your country and abroad
• ❏ Date and place of marriage or start of relationship
• ❏ Date and place of separation or divorce, court details, and documents
• ❏ Marital status at abduction
• ❏ Height
• ❏ Weight (measurement and date)
• ❏ Eye color
• ❏ Hair color (retain hair strands for DNA testing)
• ❏ Recent photograph
• ❏ Identifying features (marks, scars, glasses, tattoos, braces)
• ❏ Medical information
• ❏ Fingerprints (if available)
• ❏ Dental records (if available)

Abduction Details

• ❏ Date of departure or start of wrongful retention
• ❏ Location of abduction, circumstances, and people involved
• ❏ Means of transport and route
• ❏ Legal relationship with other parent and living arrangement at abduction
• ❏ Knowledge or suspicions of child’s location
• ❏ Details of people who may have assisted or are assisting the abduction
• ❏ Documentation

Documentation

• ❏ Child’s birth certificate
• ❏ Marriage certificate (if applicable)
• ❏ Separation or divorce agreements (if applicable)
• ❏ Parenting or custody order, visitation, and travel arrangements
• ❏ Regional/State or National laws and regulations on child welfare and parental responsibilities
• ❏ Text of Hague Convention on International Child Abduction (if applicable)
• ❏ Text of relevant criminal code sections related to parental child abduction in your country

Action Checklist

This checklist assumes abduction to a non-Hague Convention country. For Hague Convention countries, contacting your regional/state Central Authority should be a priority. (Refer to hcch.net for a list of Hague Convention countries).

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Emergency Action

• ❏ Contact local police and file a missing persons or abduction report
• ❏ Contact your Foreign Affairs Department’s Consular Services for help
• ❏ If no custody order preventing travel exists, contact a lawyer to obtain one urgently
• ❏ Contact the Passport Program to check for passport issuance and add your child to the System Lookout List
• ❏ If joint credit cards or bank accounts exist, check for unwanted expenditures and take action
• ❏ If dual citizenship or parental ties to another country exist, inform that country’s diplomatic/consular office and inquire about passport/visa issuance
• ❏ Seek support from family and friends

**The Search**
* ❏ Contact local police
* ❏ Secure certified copies of custody orders or agreements
* ❏ Research family and child welfare laws in the destination country
* ❏ Investigate legal aspects under your country's law; seek legal advice
* ❏ Contact relatives and friends of the other parent and seek their support
* ❏ Inform your child’s school, doctor, and hospital about the abduction
* ❏ Consider obtaining information on the abducting parent's location via organizations
* ❏ Contact relevant NGOs for assistance

After You Find Your Child

* ❏ Seek advice on hiring a lawyer in the foreign country
* ❏ Clarify the foreign lawyer's role, timeline, and costs
* ❏ Provide certified document copies to the foreign lawyer
* ❏ Consult Consular Services about travel needs to the foreign country

Legal Proceedings in Your Country

* ❏ Seek advice on legal proceedings from prosecutors, your lawyer, and/or your regional/state Central Authority

Publication Information

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